Wednesday, April 24, 2013

The Draw My Life Video




A little while ago, I got a request from theswisswereright to do a "draw my life video."  I had seen Jenna Marbles and Phil do theirs, and I really liked watching them---but I wasn't super keen on doing one myself.  I am very vigilant about my privacy (I always have been), and it takes a lot for me to trust someone with information about myself --so I figured this type of video was absolutely not up my alley.

I don't know how I even got started doing it.  I found myself jotting things down for it one night, and doing it the next.  My cat knocked over my tripod and broke it, and instead of using it as an excuse to stop, I immediately went out and spent $50 (omg whyyyyy) on a new tripod so I could finish it.  For an hour and 50 mins, I just sat...drawing.  It was interesting:  I didn't feel much while doing it...I just kind of let my brain tell the story it felt safe disclosing.

When I got near the end, I stuttered.  I didn't know how to depict the more present day aspects.  I told my best friend that I was doing this kind of video, and he said "WHAT?!"  He knew from first hand experience that the things I would be talking about were things I didn't talk about to anyone.  I told him I didn't know how to end it, and he said "Don't filter it, just do what feels right."

But I didn't know what felt right.

I had been feeling a bit off---no that's a lie---I had been feeling a lot off in regards to certain relationships for a few weeks before doing the D.M.L.V, and my struggle was coming from not knowing where my relationships stood.  How was I supposed to finish speaking about my life, if I myself was unsure about it?  It should be easy to make stick figures and ramble about your days---it's not...not if you want to be truthful.

Even though it was a story told on a white board---something that can be erased in seconds---there is definitely a feeling of permanence that accompanies it.  It was easy for me to draw the past, because it was over, I knew the resolutions, I had my closure.  But the present was much more delicate, since I didn't want to include things I might lose.  I was trying to protect myself from the emotional repercussions of dry erase markers, hahahaha.  That's when I came back to "Just let it happen."

Upon the advice of the same person who first said it, I dropped the filters, and I just let it happen.  I drew what I held dear.  I sped up the footage.  I recorded my voice telling my story, and telling people what this ASMR journey meant to me.  After I was done, I felt so calm.  I wasn't drained, or melancholy...I just was...and it felt good (if that makes any sense).  I posted it to youtube, and I ran.  I do that---I call it the "post and run."  I didn't know how people would receive it.  I avoided it at all costs for the rest of the night.  I didn't want to lose the cathartic release and replace it with anxiety or frustration.  My friend messaged me to talk about it and said  "Are you seeing the comments?!"  I said "Nope.  I won't look at it.  I can't yet."  He said "It's incredible!"

Because I was stubborn and still in that uncomfortable post-posting place (dat alliteration, haha), I still wouldn't look at it.  The next day I resolved to see the "damage."  I was expecting comments I had gotten before (after I posted my drawing video) like "This was too personal, I can't get ASMR from this,"  or "I don't want to know about you, I just want to be triggered,"  etc.

Usually I get 200-250 comments overnight on a new video.  On this one I had nearly 500, and the number was going up steadily.  My inboxes had blown up on youtube and facebook.  I was gobsmacked.  People were responding in such sincere ways, and sending such personal messages. There were certian people I could feel understand...and I'm sure that sounds super nonsensical, but it's real even if it sounds wonky.  I received pages long letters, video responses, artwork---things that made me cry, things that made me smile, and absolutely nothing that warranted the hesitation I felt in the first place.

I am still catching up on comments and messages because of that video.  I am so behind in time, but I don't regret it for a second.  That video did something for me, and it appears it did something for others...and that's the whole point of my channel---to give back, help people feel good, and sleep.  I have never been moved by strangers like I was from the responses to that video.  It was more than the +1 for humanity feeling.  It was beautiful.

I feel redundant because I keep saying "thank you," but I mean it every time.  I hope whoever reads this knows that.  Thank you.  <3








21 comments:

  1. “You can talk with someone for years, everyday, and still, it won't mean as much as what you can have when you sit in front of someone, not saying a word, yet you feel that person with your heart, you feel like you have known the person for forever.... connections are made with the heart, not the tongue.”
    ― C. JoyBell C.

    Your videos make a connection. SO many of us feel it, although we don't "know" you. Keep doing what you're doing. :)

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    1. I love that quote, thank you for sharing it with me. :)

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  2. Ahhhhhhh this post was almost as moving as the video, itself. Thank you for writing this up.

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    1. Thank you for reading it, my great friend!

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  4. Ok Heather.... I watched the video and I loved that video. One of your best yet... Like I said I made myself stay awake for the whole thing. I think opening up lets us connect with you more and I already told you that we are kindred spirits lol but reading this I almost cried. I would like to say THANK YOU for all that you do for us it truely is more than you will ever know.

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    1. Thank you for leaving such a nice comment :)

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  5. Batman~

    I keep thinking this night can't get any better. Now this. So glad I stayed up to read it. You are awesome.

    ~Goliath

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    1. Thank you Goliath. It's good to know I have such a wonderful ally in the fight for the night. :P

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  6. Heather, I can not believe you are thanking us. We are the ones, your fans (yes I said fans) who should be thanking endlessly. You trusted us so completely that you could share some very personal things with us. I am honored and humbled by this.
    Not that but you help me get to sleep almost everynight since I first learned about amsr. Which was at the end of last month. I didn't even have a word for the tingles until I watched your channel.
    So no Heatherfeather let me say thank you.

    Ps. Can i be the captain of your fan club in the twin cities area. If so please send decoder rings and badges. ;)
    Heath

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    1. Your comment gave me a huge smile, so thank you for that. I need to get on those decoder rings, stat. :P

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  7. You were so close to make me cry, I can almost feel your excitement ... It was a very entertaining video, and i glad to know a little more of you

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    1. Thank you for letting me share with you :)

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  8. I still stick to what I said on the video. Everyone has their triumphs, and I felt privileged that you shared your story with us. And it was fun to re-visit some of my own memories of Toonami back in 2000.

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  9. Oh Heather..I can relate to this post and run thing! It can be sooo nerve wracking when you're sitting there wondering..what will they say???? Well, we all love you Darlin'!♥ You are supportive and so kind..and awesomely funny. Anyways..HIGH FIVE girl..you did amazing! :)

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    1. I accept your high five, and give you another! :D

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  10. I was so moved by your video, I have been a fan for a while, but your sincerity and honesty with your feelings towards basically strangers and your willingness to share your story with us, blew me away. I wish I could put into words how much you have changed my life and how much I appreciate your works, thank you so much :)

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    1. Thank YOU, Sarah. You help me too. it's a mutually beneficial relationship.

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  11. Heather, I love the bits of your personality that come across in the videos! Don't ever fear showing us more of who you really are (with safety in mind of course), because you are a shining star!

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